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The Personal Touch

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 07/18/14

One of the things I enjoy is keeping in touch with people.  In the fast pace life we live filled with lists and agendas, I am just as guilty as the next person in dragging my feet.  When I was a little girl my grandmother taught me the art of sending personalized notes whether they are for a  birthday, anniversary or a kind note of thanks. I have also tried to teach my children to pick up a phone make a call and not rely on just a text as a form of communication.   I understand that pushing a few buttons here and there is easier and faster, but showing someone they matter enough to go the extra step touches the heart. 

 

Recently, I reached out to a friend by the name of Solombra Ingram, who runs a conference for women called, I Am Every Woman. I really wanted to attend, but when I looked at the dates I was only available the first night due to a prior commitment.  When I called her, I was going to extend well wishes and send her a donation to show support.  As we talked she informed me that she was actually still looking for a speaker for opening night and she asked if I was interested.  What started out as an opportunity for me to support her work, turned into a blessing in disguise for both of us.  This very act reminded me of the quote by Tracy Chapman, I have seen and met angels wearing the disguise of ordinary people living ordinary lives.

 

Going the extra mile, touching the lives of other people has a way of boomeranging and touching the giver as much as the receiver.  When I asked Solombra what she had chosen as the theme she replied, The Great Commission: Get Up and  Go:  Moving Beyond the Mundane and Maximizing Momentum.   I felt right in step and I graciously accepted.   I feel blessed to stand with wonderful women such as Adai Lamar from 102.3 KJLH Radio, Dr. Holly Carter from Releve Entertainment, Lady Myesha Chaney, Pastor Rekesha Pittman, and Actress Kym Whitley.  All of these women represent different stratospheres of life and will have something to give.

 

What I know for sure is when we make the decision to get up and move beyond the mundane, momentum will come and we can maximize all that life has to offer.  Have you ever thought the very person that could possibly help you is just a phone call or note away? 

 

Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!

 

Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 5:00am. 

Down & Out

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 07/11/14

By now many of us have heard about the senseless beating of a 51 year old woman name Marlene Pinnock by a CHP officer.  As more information about her becomes unveiled, we learn she has a history of homelessness as well as trouble with the law.  According to the National Coalition for the Homeless, approximately twenty five percent of homeless people suffer from problems with mental illness. There is also evidence that shows some members of law enforcement have been negligent in their behavior towards those that are homeless and mentally ill.    It is a cycle that gets perpetuated over and over again and it must end.

 

Mental health problems are epidemic.  Oftentimes they get buried or misdiagnosed in our society due to the lack of understanding or sensitivity.  As a coach, I am trained to understand that we have to be clear on what we are capable to handle.  There are situations that are serious and need the attention of a licensed doctor or therapist, not a layman or professionals such as law enforcement that are acting as psychologists without training.  Most people who are involved in the world of social work (or community service) oftentimes have to wear multiple hats, but if we want to be real effective, we must understand our limitations.

 

Society and the powers that be must hold law enforcement and others to strict guidelines and accountability when working with the public.  We must understand our limitations and then find the right outlet or service that can best accommodate or help those in need.  Showing compassion and kindness towards those that are tagged as the least of these is part of the healing process.   Another way to think about it would be, what if it was a member of your family or someone you love.  Better yet, what if it was you? 

 

In a time of social media, cameras on cell phones, and instant publicity, you think people would be careful what they do and how they act in public, but of course we see every day people get caught in inappropriate behavior.   Hopefully holding a magnifying glass up to situations will make people accountable for their actions while shedding light on situations that need attention.  Everyone has the right to live in a society where they are safe from being beat just because they are ill.

 

 

Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!

 

Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 5:00am. 

Felix Culpa

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 07/06/14

I have learned over the years that most of us who are given a voice to share words of wisdom oftentimes come from a place where we have experienced something valuable and we want to pass it along.  Think of the saying, be careful when you point a finger at someone because three are pointing back at you.  Also the older I get the more I see why my grandmother would say, do not throw rocks when you live in a glass house.  You may wonder what happened that would make me share such comments.  Let me assure you, all is well, just the usual ups and downs life has to offer. However, I know when you focus on pointing out the shortcomings or faults of others, someone is right behind you looking at yours.

 

Although I think of myself as a pretty positive and upbeat person, experiencing the changes of life women go through at one point or another called menopause, I have seen my moods shift a little easier, things can and will get on my nerves, but I have also noticed that I am trying to be a little more forgiving when people make mistakes or things do not turn out the way I hoped or planned.  Life has a way of showing you your own mistakes and shortcomings when you are open and looking. Forgiveness can cover a multitude of sins. It is also interesting when we forgive we often experience forgiveness.   

 

I think when we look at our lives as a master tapestry woven together by all of the things that happen in our lives, all of the people that come and go, all of the mistakes and accomplishments, we begin to see how it all comes together and why all of it is important to make the tapestry a masterpiece. What is also interesting is it does not all really come together until our work is done and we have finished our course.  It is important for us to not get weary or give up. Learn to ride it through. 

 

I recently read an article that used the term felix culpa.  In Latin felix is a term for happy, lucky or blessed and culpa means fault.  When you put together the two words the term that comes out of it is unfortunate events can lead to unexpected happy outcomes.  So as we look at the good, bad and ugly, in the end it all has the possibility of coming out beautiful. 

 

Remember, life has lots of twists and turns.  How we look at things and our attitude ultimately play a role on how we deal with the outcome.  When we look at the people who seem to always be at peace, they do not let things ruffle their feathers and they seem to be the ones that let water run down their backs like ducks.  Interesting ducks can appear calm, even when they are peddling like mad under the water.  In the end things may not be as they originally appeared.  It is all in how one perceives a situation.

 

Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!

 

Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 5:00am. 

"Let Freedom Ring!"

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 06/30/14

The Fourth of July is when we commemorate the adoption of the Declaration of Independence declaring our freedom from the Kingdom of Britain and celebrating the history, government and traditions of the United States.  The rights of individuals have evolved tremendously over the past two hundred and thirty eight years, but we still have a way to go.

 

Most of us are aware of President Obama’s initiative called, My Brother’s Keeper (MBK), it aims to help young men of color by giving them a fighting chance for a better future.  When visiting the home page of this initiative put out by the White House it states, …My Brother’s Keeper is all about helping more of our young people stay on track.  Providing support they need to think more broadly about their future.  Building on what works – when it works, in those critical life-changing moments. President Barack Obama, February 27, 2014.  My question is what about our girls?

 

In all fairness, in March 2009 the President signed an Executive Order creating the White House Council on Women and Girls, but as I read through their site it does not address the necessary components for our young girls in the same category as the young men being identified through MBK.  Recently a Letter of 200 Concerned Black Men calling for the Inclusion of Women and Girls in My Brother’s Keeper was sent to the President for consideration.

 

A group of Women of Color are also urging the President to Re-align My Brother’s Keeper to include our girls.  Prominent Women such as Angela Davis, Alice Walker, Anita Hill and Rosie Perez among others are leading the discussion (along with local and national organizations).  Over and over statistics show that homicide among girls of color is at an astonishing rate and they are disproportionately at risk for violent crimes and being funneled through the juvenile justice system than many of their counterparts.   

 

Those of us who are on the front lines with our girls must continue to let our voices be heard.  We must unite in solidarity to work together with our boys and girls in order for the words of our Declaration of Independence to hold true for all, we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men (and women) are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.  Forgiving For Living, Inc., stands with these men and women that want to urge the President to include our girls in those critical life-changing moments.  Let freedom ring!

 

Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!

 

Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter or email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 5:00am.

"Instinct & Intellect can Intersect"

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 06/21/14

Growing up with my grandmother as a little girl she always encouraged us to read, learn and stretch our brains.  This was natural for her because not only was she a wonderful mother and grandmother, but for over 50 years she was a teacher.  She gave me a love for books that stays with me until this day.  Right out of high school I attended the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) to obtain my undergraduate degree in Political Science.  Since graduation (over 30 years ago), I still continue to stretch and learn new things.

 

The work I am fortunate to do with Forgiving For Living, Inc., teaching young ladies (and adults) about the benefits of forgiveness and moving forward with their lives, as well as the consulting work I do helping people in various areas of their personal and professional life, image, branding, and community relations, I decided to go back to school to acquire my certification and accreditation in Life Coaching.  I attend Antioch University through a joint program with the Center for Nonprofit Management and the International Coaching Federation.  The course is quite rigorous but very stimulating.  As one of my dear friends said to me when she learned I went back to school, Wendy you’re just learning the science and mechanics to something you’ve been doing most of your life.

 

Right now with going back to school I have a lot of reading to do, but when I learned about Bishop T.D. Jakes new book called, Instinct, I was pulled to get it and read it.  What I have found interesting as I am reading his book, and learning all of the things in my coaching class, something hit me.  Bishop Jakes talks about the difference between intellect and instinct.  He stresses that although research and development (intellect) are important, nothing replaces natural born instinct.  It is very rewarding when we are able to not only follow our dreams, but also do the work we were born to do. Even as a little girl I remember being the person people would come to and share their problems or situations and as I listened I would encourage them to try and figure out a solution for themselves. Through the course I am now taking, I have learned this thought process is the essence of coaching.  For me instinct and intellect have intersected.

 

Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!

 

Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter or email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 5:00am.