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Giving Thanks In All Things

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 11/22/15

In perilous times, such as we live in today, many find it difficult to truly give thanks.  Everywhere we turn there is another atrocity in our local or global news.  The lack of respect for human life continues to show up in situations such as human trafficking, girls being sold for sex, and the ongoing conversation around Black Lives Matter.  This theme continues with all lives across the world with killings in places such as Paris, Mali, and Beirut just to name a few.  ISIS continues to be a world threat and if we place our faith in the hands of man it would appear hopeless.


Since the beginning of time, history books reveal that each generation faced what appeared to be helpless and tragic situations.  When the chronicles are written about us today it will be no different.  While in the midst of any situation it can look gloomy and make one want to just give up.  However, as long as we have breath in our bodies there is always hope for a better day.  When we feel discouraged and think that the world has lost its mind, that is the time to look up, dig deep and take a stand. It is always the darkest just before dawn.  The bible even tells us that weeping may endure for a night, but joy will come in the morning.


Thanksgiving is a time to pause and give thanks for the blessings in our lives and in the world in spite of the pain that is real.  During our lifetime we will experience death, but there is also life.  As people transition from this world to the next, babies are born and with each new life there is hope for peace and harmony to exist among mankind.   In life there are many things out of our control; however, what we do with the things we have control of matters.  Do we speak up when we see things that are not right?  Do we take the first step to extend forgiveness when it will help mend a fence or build a bridge?  Are we willing to experience a little discomfort if it helps another human being?  These are all things that we have to ponder and answer for ourselves.


Several years ago I heard a minister say that if we would just stop long enough to count our blessings one by one, it would consume us in such a way that we would not have time to complain.  Again, I am not saying there are not bad and negative things all around us, but we must have a made up mind that life is worth living and that we were put on this earth to make a difference.  The dawning of each new day gives all of us the opportunity to give thanks and start fresh.  How we decide to use our time and the choices and decisions we make will and can have an impact on others.


As I have gotten older and matured, I have made it a habit to wake up each day and first give thanks.  After I have my time of prayer, reading and journaling, I tell God that I am ready to report for service for whatever assignment He has for me that day.  No matter what I may have on my list, I give Him permission to adjust it as He sees fit.  I try to do something positive for someone else everyday with the hope of making a difference and hopefully also putting a smile on the face of someone else.  It really is not that difficult.  It can be as simple as saying a kind word, or lending a helping hand, or giving a small gift.  These are all gifts to help others feel appreciated and thankful.


Remember the world is full of good people; if you cannot seem to find one, then it is up to you to be one.  In all things give thanks and you will find the rainbow after the storm.  Happy Thanksgiving!  


Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!


Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am. 

Family Legacy: The Next Generation

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 11/16/15

Following in the footsteps of our parents is not a new tradition, but it is becoming a lost art.  For generations children have carried on the profession of their ancestors and did so with pride.  It was not uncommon for children to receive an apprenticeship simply by working with their parents on a day by day basis.  As time has passed and professions have evolved so has the desire for youth to continue in this vain.  However, I do believe there is a renewed interest in what I am hoping will be a new line of legacy starting with my own family.


I come from a long line of entrepreneurs.  My great grandfather did odd jobs and invested his money in real estate in the South.  Today our family is still reaping benefits from his efforts.  My grandmother was not only a teacher, but she also at one time owned a small restaurant, she did hair, and she owned an income tax service.  My father, even with all of his worldly ways, eventually became involved in real estate and taxes. Over the years I have dabbled in real estate, I even did short form taxes while in college to help make ends meet and now for close to twenty five years, I have owned my own consulting firm helping the community.


Over the past year I have had several serious conversations with my daughter about her career path and purpose.  She was not really happy in her corporate job and although she was grateful she felt a void.  I challenged her to think about what she felt her true purpose was and if it meant making a change do not be shy.  She had to put her faith on the line and trust God to open doors that no man could close.  After much thought, prayer, and preparation she made that leap.  I am proud to say she has now ventured out into the entrepreneur lane and we are riding it together.  Although it is still early in the journey, God has shown his hand on her life and given confirmation that the best is yet to come.


As I think about what is happening in the life of our family, I am drawn to a scenario about a movie coming out over the Thanksgiving holiday called, Creed. The movie is a story about a young man by the name of Adonis Johnson, who happens to play the son of the fictitious character Apollo Creed, who decides to follow in the footsteps of his father and become a boxer.  As I did a little background investigation into the Rocky film series, I learned that the name Apollo Creed was based on Christian theological understanding of the Canonical gospels.  I found this interesting since my faith is centered in Christianity. It peaked my interest and desire to learn more and share the story with others.


According to the previews Adonis, son of Apollo, struggles with real life issues such as establishing his values, his character, and understanding legacy as he strives to become a boxer after the death of his father.  Whenever the torch is passed from one generation to the next sometimes what our children need is a little encouragement to get into the ring and put their heart into the fight.  If they make a mistake or if they have been hit a time or two, we may need to pull them into the corner, give them a little pep talk, mop their brow and send them back out into the ring.  With the right guidance, training and preparation there is no reason why they can not achieve a total knock out.  Although the film Creed is based on fictitious characters, my daughter, Courtney Sabra Marie and I are looking forward to seeing it together and rooting for the next generation.


Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!


Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am. 

How Do Nonprofits Survive Today

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 11/08/15

Nonprofit organizations as we know them today are actually a relatively new concept.  Most nonprofits grew out of grass root organizations that were fulfilling a specific need.   Although charities, especially religious and educationally based, existed as far back as the development of our country, most nonprofits came after World War II.  A surge of these organizations blossomed during the 1970s and have been helping those in need ever since.


Nonprofits are not created for the primary purpose of making a profit.  They are to raise funds to fulfill their mission of helping others.  However, we all know it is impossible to conduct business whether you are a for profit or nonprofit, without money.  We are in the midst of the season where many nonprofits hold their annual galas and fundraisers to keep their doors open.  Sometimes there are so many dinners and galas that make it is impossible to attend them all.  However, if you are not able to attend you can still support by making a donation or volunteering based on the work they do.


Charities and nonprofits receive support and donations in various forms and for various reasons.  Corporate Goodwill, philanthropy, volunteerism, and tax benefits are just a few of the reasons that prompt individuals and companies to give.  There are also those that dedicate their resources to a specific cause based on a personal experience or heart connection.  Forgiving For Living, Inc., the nonprofit I started in 1999, was birthed because of my personal experience with sexual abuse and abandonment as a child.  Our nonprofit uplifts the self-esteem of girls and provides them with life skills.  There are numerous causes that serve different needs.  You can find one that appeals to you. 


This past week I attended the Brotherhood Crusade annual gala.  Brotherhood Crusade is a unique community based institution dedicated to self help, self determination and enhancing the quality of life for African Americans and other disenfranchised people.  Their mission is to build and sustain an institution that raises funds and resources for others.  They use their funds and resources to provide programs that uplift the community as well as provide grants to community based nonprofit organizations that service the health, education, social welfare and economic needs of the community. 


This week I will be the guest of Cynthia Heard, Vice President of the Greater Los Angeles YWCA, at their Rhapsody Gala.  The YWCA is dedicated to eliminating racism, empowering women and promoting peace, justice, freedom, and dignity for all. Faye Washington, President of the Greater YWCA of Greater Los Angeles is proud to honor this year Supervisor Mark Ridley Thomas with the Man of the Year Award.  Dr. Elaine Batchlor, CEO of the new Martin Luther King, Jr. Community Hospital will introduce the Supervisor and applaud him for the work he has done in the community.  Other honorees include Debra Lee, Chairman & CEO BET Networks; Cheryl Boone Isaacs, President of the Motion Pictures & Sciences; Entrepreneur, Model and Author Kathy Ireland; and past Forgiving For Living, PLUS Awards Honoree Fabian Wesson.  The evening will highlight those that truly make a difference in the lives of others. 


As we begin the season of giving do not forget to give a little back to organizations and nonprofits that need your support to survive.  You can be the difference that helps keep their doors open!


Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!


Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am. 

South Korea: The Land of Extremes

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 11/02/15

Anyoung Haseyo which means hello in Korean.  As many of you know I just returned from Korea and I had a fabulous time.  Along with fourteen other colleagues, we attended the Seventeenth Annual Multi Cultural Leadership Korea Visitation Program.  The trip was sponsored by GCS Los Angeles and GCS International.  GCS stands for Goodwill Cooperation Service and they are a NGO in Special Consultative Status with the ECOSOC of the United Nations.


The GCS Movement pursues the restoration of human dignity by human understanding of the material and spiritual world through revolution of consciousness.  GCS International has been in existence since 1979 and there are several chapters across the globe.  For the past seventeen years the Los Angeles Chapter has taken delegates in the pursuit of bringing exposure and awareness to American leaders about the political, cultural and economic developments of the country.  The organization desires to educate those who attend about the progress of South Korea in hopes of building a stronger relationship.


Dr. Chan Hie Kim and Jason Lee were our leaders and guides.  The rest of our delegation consisted of professionals from all walks of life and various professions.  Alicia Berhow, Andres Carrasco, Blake Chow, Cecilia Cabello, Brian Kim, Sunny Lee, Lacey Johnson, Lowynn Young, Robert Bogue, Robyn Adams, Sheri Betts, and Theresa Doran. We represented various aspects of Southern California. We all brought different levels of expertise to share with our counterparts in Korea, while also learning from their expertise.  The experience was like attending a college crash course in South Korea 101.


As delegates from Southern California we were treated as VIPs and everywhere we traveled people acknowledged us an important delegation from America.  The red carpet was literally rolled out for our visit and no expense was spared.  Our trip was over the course of ten days and we visited not only the GCS International headquarters, but also various Palaces including the Gyeongbokgung Palace.  We also visited one of their Universities and the Korean War Museum.  Koreans are very grateful for those that sacrificed and fought to help their country.  They have a deep appreciation to Americans and others that stood by them in their time of need.  One of our delegates had an uncle who fought and died and we found his name on the Wall of Remembrance.  During the trip we also visited a Korean Folk Village, we toured the DMZ in Panmunjum, as well as visited Hyundai Steel, the Metropolitan Police Agency and the National Assembly.  Overall we touched and experienced various aspects of their economy.


We were provided access to areas that are often closed to general tourists and visitors.  The hospitality shown to us was beyond anything I have ever experienced and we dined on gourmet meals that included Korean BBQ, kimchi, daikon, pajeon, and shikhae.  The architecture of the country is comprised of traditional buildings to high rises with glass structures expanding to the sky.  Korea once known as the copycat nation has risen to become leaders in areas such as technology and automotive. The way they bring together the old and the new truly explains why they are regarded as the land of extremes.


Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!


Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am. 

What Does The Pink Ribbon Mean To You?

by Wendy Gladney Dean on 10/26/15

Ribbons have become synonymous with causes all across the world.  We associate yellow ribbons with those coming back from war or even from possibly serving time in prison. AIDS activists use red ribbons to bring awareness to those suffering with HIV and AIDS. Pink is the color used to show support, strength and hope for those who suffer from breast cancer.  As I researched about the history of the pink ribbon being associated with breast cancer, I learned that early attention was actually first brought through using peach colored ribbons. Charlotte Haley experienced generations of women in her family who battled and fought breast cancer and she used peached hued ribbons to draw attention to the cause.


Over time many companies and organizations such as Estee Lauder, Avon and many others have become involved and linked with spreading information and awareness about breast cancer and pink was ultimately chosen as the color because it was felt to be feminine and the best representation for women.  Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women in the United States and it is the second leading cause of death due to cancer in women after lung cancer. However, this disease is not limited to just women.  Men are also being diagnosed.  One famous celebrity, actor Richard Roundtree, has shared publicly his survival of breast cancer and has encouraged other men to be tested as well.  


October has been designated as the month to highlight and bring attention to the battle and struggle of those suffering from breast cancer. Last week while watching television I even noticed professional football teams having the famous pink ribbons attached to their uniforms.  Most if not all of us know someone who has battled breast cancer.  The Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation has been the premiere organization for over three decades on research, community health, global outreach and public policy initiatives in order to bring more awareness around breast cancer and possibly a cure. For more information contact a local office near you.


Studies continue to shift as to when it is a good time for someone to get tested. It is suggested that women between 45 and 54 years of age should be tested regularly. Mammogram screenings are important for early detection and if breast cancer runs in your family the earlier the better.   Men that have breast cancer in their family or if they have any signs should also get tested.  According to the American Cancer Society there is no sure way to prevent breast cancer, but there are things that all of us can do to increase overall good health.  The things we can do to help improve our health include controlling our body weight, increasing our exercise regiment, watching what we eat and how much we eat. We should also make sure to get tested!


I personally have not wrestled with breast cancer, but I do know what it feels like to be told you have cancer.  When I experienced my battle with cancer over fifteen years ago, I learned that it is important for us to take care of our complete selves mind, body and soul.  While taking care of the physical side of your life also take care of your mental and spiritual wellbeing. I also found it helpful to have positive people in my life who supported me!


Healing Without Hate:  It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. Pass it on!


Visit www.WendyGladney.com and www.forgivingforliving.org.  Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at wendy.gladney@gmail.com. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am.