How do we get unstuck?

COVID-19 has caused a lot of us to feel uneasy. Now, with new restrictions once again being placed regarding “stay at home,” especially during the holidays, many of us feel stuck. Do you ever feel stuck and unable to free yourself? You are not alone. What I have learned from analyzing this is that it does not have to be permanent. The possibility to become unstuck is available to all of us if we are patient and are willing to put in the work. We can free ourselves. Just like if we were accidentally stuck in the mud, there is a way out. Just do not give up.


There are many different scenarios we can get ourselves into that make us feel out of control. I recently found myself stuck. When the pandemic hit, I thought I would be just fine and that I would be able to ride it out. After all, I am used to working from home and solving problems no matter where I am. Also, as an entrepreneur, I am used to the highs and lows of being a solo business owner, so I thought, “no worries, I got this.”However, it is one thing to project how you think you will feel versus how you will actually feel when you go through the experience. I even started experiencing emotions that I had during menopause. All of this caused me to feel stuck.


After going through what seemed to be an on-again and off-again roller coaster ride over the past few months, I decided enough is enough. I wanted off the ride, so I had to figure out how to get unstuck. The first thing I decided to do was to focus on my blessings and all the wonderful things that are positive in my life. I have a wonderful family and even with the pandemic, I feel blessed to still be in business. Secondly, I decided to reach out and get help. I wanted to make sure that physically I was healthy, and I realized that the source of my feeling stuck was because I do not get enough sleep. When we are tired everything that bothers us or makes us feel stuck becomes magnified.


So, if you are feeling stuck and you are trying to figure out how to get out of the muck and mire, here is what I recommend.

  • Stop and do a self-assessment – try to get to the root of the issue

  • Once you get to the root you can work on fixing it

  • During the process, focus on the good things that are going right in your life

  • Do not be ashamed to admit if you need some help

  • Make a plan on how to get out of the mud (unstuck)

  • Make sure you get enough sleep

  • Eat a proper diet and commit to some level of exercise

  • Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself

Getting stuck is often a gradual process that does not happen overnight and if it did not happen overnight it may take a moment to become unstuck. Deepak Chopra said, “no matter what the situation, remind yourself that you have a choice.” Keep your chin up, face the music, be patient, and just do the work.

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